By Wendy J. Wallace, DO, President of CCF

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. The greatest gift you can give your child is the inner knowing that they are loved. Experts say that children don’t experience true love until their hormones kick in around adolescence. So how can we convey that love to our greatest gifts—our little children? How do we help children learn love?

Speaking the words “I love you” is a great start. Assuring them they are loved when they are good, when they are bad, and when they are just being themselves imprints very affirming words in their brains. Touch, such as hugs, cuddles, or stroking their head, is a powerful way to affirm positive connection. Play teaches children that they are important in your life and that you value time with them. Make sure the play is on their level—simply passing a ball back and forth can be great fun for an 18-month-old.

Spontaneous expressions of love, such as a trip to the playground, zoo, or library, reading another book, or playing a fun matching game or puzzle, also reinforce connection. Teaching them skills—such as mixing pancake batter, putting their toys away, or learning how to put on their coats—encourages positive self-esteem and independence.

All of these experiences support your child’s inner joy and their inner knowing that the world is a good place.

Care Center Foundation students on a field trip. Image: Care Center Foundation